Tough, Tender, Terry: The Masculinity TV Needs

In a tv show, there’s usually a stereotypical “tough guy”. Often it’s someone physically imposing, emotionally closed off, and driven buy ego rather than sympathy. These characters’ main trait is defined by their muscles and their masculinity. They are aggressive, and unwilling to show vulnerability. However, in Brooklyn 99, this trope is shattered by Sargeant Terry Jeffords; a man who is physically attractive, a powerhouse, and also deeply compassionate and emotionally intelligent.

Terry isn’t just a better version of the classic “strong guy”. He goes beyond it, proving that strength and sensitivity are not mutually exclusive. He’s the kind of character that redefines masculinity in mainstream media, showcasing how true strength is about more than just physical power. Moreover, he’s artistically gifted. It’s mentioned on more than one occasion that he loves to draw, and likes to put emotions in his paintings. This is a trait rarely seen in ‘big guys’.

From the moment Terry steps on screen, his physical dominance is undeniable. As a former football player and bodybuilder, he’s often shown lifting ridiculous weights, effortlessly taking down criminals, and being an intimidating force when necessary. His fitness obsession (and legendary love for yogurt) makes for some of the funniest moments in the show (such as him running through walls).

At the same time, Terry is the emotional backbone of the 99th precinct. He isn’t just tough when it comes to fighting crime; he’s tough when it comes to handling difficult conversations, supporting his colleagues, and standing up for what’s right. His leadership is rooted in empathy, not fear. Unlike “macho” characters who rule with an iron fist, Terry lends an extremely toned and strong shoulder for his squad to cry on.

As a sergeant, he takes his job seriously but never lets his authority distance him from his team. He mentors and supports his squad, always encouraging their growth rather than tearing them down. His respect for his colleagues, whether it’s standing up for Rosa’s privacy, recognizing Amy’s ambition, or boosting Jake’s self-confidence, makes him one of the most beloved characters in the show.

Many tough-guy characters are written as lone wolves, like ‘The Vulture’ for example, relying only on themselves. Terry, however, thrives in teamwork and prioritizes emotional intelligence in his leadership. He isn’t afraid to admit when he’s scared (like when he worries about racial profiling affecting his ability to do his job safely), and that honesty and openness only makes him a stronger leader.

This is evident in his home-life too. One of Terry’s most defining traits is his love for his family. He adores his wife, Sharon, and his daughters, Cagney and Lacey, and he never shies away from expressing it. In many TV shows, strong male characters are often emotionally distant fathers, placing work above family. But Terry completely flips that stereotype, his family is his priority, and he isn’t afraid to be openly affectionate.

So, whilst many continue to believe that a good father is one who keeps his family in line, works all day, and represses his emotions (as well his kids’), Terry’s dedication shows that fatherhood isn’t about detachment, but involvement.

Terry is multidimensional. He isn’t reduced to just his muscles or his physicality. He’s a hilarious, artistic, loving, and emotionally available man who shows that masculinity doesn’t have to be rigid or one-dimensional.

Unlike many TV characters who hide their emotions behind a wall of toughness, Terry embraces his feelings. He loves painting, he gets excited about yogurt, and he’s never afraid to express his love for his team. He doesn’t see kindness and strength as opposites; he embodies both effortlessly.

At a time when media is slowly shifting away from outdated gender roles, Terry Jeffords serves as a prime example of how men can be both strong and sensitive, tough and tender. He’s not just a fantastic character, he’s a much-needed role model for a healthier, more balanced portrayal of masculinity on screen.

We deserve more healthy male figures on TV for young boys to grow into.